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Monday, October 13, 2014

One Step Closer to Myself- How I Became a Mormon


So, I had asked earlier if anyone was interested how I decided to become a member of the The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. More than a few were interested, so here is the story. I will title it, "How I Became a Mormon" or "My ENTIRE Life Story"...HAHA Read if you'd like. If not, scroll on, my friend.
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I have the wonderfully unique opportunity to be the "baby" of five siblings. What makes it so unique is that we are spread out in age and most of my siblings were adults my entire childhood. I LOVE the fact that my parents have been married for SIXTY years!  My parents were both raised in separate religions pretty strictly. My father is the son of a Baptist Army Chaplain and my mother was raised Roman Catholic, which produced a lot of "fireworks" with their parents when they fell in love.
Imagine what THAT was like when my older brother met a Mormon in high school and decided that was the religious path he wanted to choose. From what I've heard my parents were very supportive. I was a baby so his decision didn't have much of an influence on me. However, my middle sister, was affected by his conversion and began learning about it for herself in her teenage years. Along with great friends, an obsession with Donnie Osmond and a blossoming testimony, she decided to get baptized when she was sixteen. My brother was called to serve a mission in Scotland and my father still says that was the most blessed two years of their life. At that time I was still very young, so I remember two things....talking on cassette tapes to send to Elder Drake in Scotland and the cutie missionaries coming to our home to teach my teenage sister.
From then on I really did not have much to do with any sort of religious experiences. My parents had taught me about God, Jesus Christ and prayer but going to church was never anything we did. I really had no idea if I was Baptist, Catholic or Mormon-by-association. But I was busy living my worldly, social and MTV driven life and really didn't give it too much thought.
Of course, late teen years are when we are trying to "figure it all out". I headed to Southern California, Fullerton College and later to Cal State Fullerton, where I only knew one person. I chose that area because I could go to the beach during the day and go to parties at night. I quickly began having one college experience after another and, looking back, it WAS a great time of my life. Being a character at Disneyland, a passionate romance, changing my major FOUR times and learning that I loved working at a hotel were just a few of the highlights. I met some very great people who I'm still very close to. I cherish those years!
It was in my senior year of college that the LDS Missionaries came into my life. My roommate began seriously dating a Mormon guy (and they got married YAY!) and they began knocking on our door. I felt this incredible need to defend the Mormon church when it came up, because my siblings believed in it and I often got into controversial dialogue about it. One time when my roommate was "dodging them" I said, "Hey, I would love to chat with you. BUT I will never cook you dinner AND I AM NOT getting baptized. I really just want some questions answered so I can defend your religion to others." HAHAHA
I am a firm believer that there is a "missionary" out there for everyone. "My" Elder Hatch had just converted a year prior and did not judge me for all my exciting lifestyle choices. Even though I was NOT looking for a life-change, I was very happy with where I was going, I asked them to come back because I wanted to know why my sister wore different under-clothes and we hadn't gotten to that yet! The next time they came over they brought me a copy of The Book of Mormon: Another Testament of Jesus Christ, but I went over to my bookshelf and took one my brother had given to me before his mission.
Now, at that point in my life I had been doing quite a bit of reading for school. When I opened the Book of Mormon and began to read something felt very different. Not different in an unfamiliar way, different in a feeling way. I didn't understand much of it, but I knew right away, without a doubt, that an unlearned boy COULD NOT have written these words. I knew that what I was reading was divine and the word of God. That was the moment where I decided to listen more clearly to what it was that was written. I had learned about the Bible and Bible stories and never doubted them. When I read the Book of Mormon it was like the Bible all made sense to me. They complimented each other and it felt right. The missionaries asked me to pray about what I was reading to know if it was true...I already knew.
People often ask me how I went from drinking alcohol, coffee and doing a variety of other worldly things to NOT doing them OVERNIGHT. I stopped a plethora of things, "Cold turkey", because once I knew that the words I was reading were true and divine, it was very easy to change my actions. The missionaries asked me to come to church. They really wanted me to go to a college congregation so that I would be with people that I had things in common with. I chose not to since I was so far from my family, I was interested in the congregation that had families in it. This decision changed the course of my life. Sitting in that church I looked at the families. The dads in suits, moms with diaper bags full of snacks and little kids with runny noses and I KNEW that I wanted to be in a building just like that, every Sunday for the rest of my life. That day I called my parents and said, "Will you come to my baptism?" They said, "Into what church?" and when I told them which church they, again, were very supportive of my choice. As a matter of fact, almost every single member of my family (including my Catholic Nana) traveled to Southern California to be a part of my baptism. That day I didn't feel different from myself, I just felt closer to the REAL me.
If you are looking for the "next season spoilers"...hahaha...here are some quick highlights. THE VERY SAME MONTH that I chose to get baptized Elder Bottom, far away in Kobe, Japan wrote a letter to his father saying he did not want to go to University of Utah and, that for some weird reason, he felt he should go to Cal State Fullerton. Looking back, it was very clear WHY he was inspired to change his school. I continued on with my studies and became active in church life. When Elder Bottom returned from his mission he quickly began dating another girl. He and I became friends and I really, REALLY didn't think anything about him. He was cute and a surfer but I had Mormon boys to date and a plan to return back to Northern California to get my teaching credential. I did not have TIME or A NEED to meet a husband. But, everything happens for a reason, and the next thing I knew I was telling Mark that he needed to dump that girl and date me because I would treat him so much better...the rest is history!
Hey, if you even made it to the end....thank you for listening. I don't regret ANYTHING I did before those missionaries taught me because I learned how (first hand) our Savior, Jesus Christ, forgives us. If His Atonement works for me, it can work for anyone. I have been active every single day since I made the decision to get baptized. I AM THE strict one with our teens because I HAVE SEEN IT AND DONE IT. I love knowing that we can be together after we die. I love the fact that I can know that I can see my ancestors again. I love focusing on the good in people, instead of all the scary things we are presented with. AND I LOVE knowing that a loving Father in Heaven has a plan for EACH of us and wants us to be happy. 
If you have any questions or comments, feel free to chat me up...HOWEVER, no haters please. 

Friday, July 25, 2014

What Beachbody Workout Programs Have Taught Me

One of the greatest things that Beachbody programs have taught me is how to get comfortable being uncomfortable. I call myself a "recovering quitter" because I just never spent time doing things I didn't want to do. I didn't see the purpose of it...this behavior was as recent as when I lived in China and just didn't see the purpose in hiking The Great Wall. Sometimes this attitude still perks up...but A LOT LESS than it used to!
So, how has Beachbody programs done this? Well, first there is a program for anyone, at any stage they are at. My first program was Les Mills Pump because I wanted to add strength training to my running. Immediately I felt muscle strength and saw definition that I couldn't achieve after years of doing my own thing at the gym. THAT feeling pushed me a little farther and soon I wanted to do P90X...who was this new person ? Before I knew it I had completed the entire 90 days of P90X, P90X3, Les Mills Combat...and TODAY I COMPLETED INSANITY! If you would have told me a year ago that I would do Insanity...I would've admitted you! That was the scariest, craziest sounding and looking program out there for me. But when I completed each program the reward, strength and empowerment I felt propelled me to move a little bit farther out of my comfort zone that I didn't even recognize how far I had come! So...what is next for THIS INSANITY GRADUATE? Well, I am now training for a FULL marathon and using P90X3 as my cross training. A full marathon is not something I EVER wanted to do...but after getting half way through my half marathon training I felt confident enough to step over that comfort line yet again! It has been ONE YEAR since my first Beachbody program and I cannot believe how far I have come in that time! I CANNOT WAIT TO SEE what the future has in store now that I am comfortable being uncomfortable! WHERE DO YOU WANT TO BE IN ONE YEAR?

Friday, March 22, 2013

Staying On Track at Mom & Dad's

A "petite" scoop of toasted almond ice cream with a side of caramel
at Fenton's Creamery in Oakland, CA
I have the best parents! I admit that being the baby of five I have always been, and continue to be, spoiled. But they are not selective about who they spoil, they do it to anyone who comes to visit. They are stellar hosts! But with that comes challenges when you are trying to be healthy.

My mom is an amazing cook and shows her love through cooking. I prepared them ahead of time saying that I am trying to be good so I don't need any extra special meals. I also made a plan about what to fill up on and what to take very, very small portions of. I was very careful about not hurting her, or anyone else's feelings.

Now that my two weeks have ended, bags are packed and heading to the airport early in the morning, I can reflect about what worked and what did not work. Overall, I am very happy about my progress. This was one of the biggest challenges I have had to face and I stayed focused and feel great about it! 

It has been nice to tell myself, "I am not blowing it now! I don't want to undo any of the great choices I've made here at home."
  • I ate salads with dressing on the side (rarely touching it) every single time I ate out. I did not get tired of them because good salads are something that are hard to find in Beijing. 
  • I exercised every single day except Sundays. When I had an early morning meeting I would go for an evening run.
  • I didn't deprive myself of special treats every now and then. (a scoop of Fenton's ice cream, a sliver of my mom's strawberry pie, a piece of See's candy here and there).
  • I counted every calorie I ate.
  • We went to a Chinese restaurant for my niece's birthday (her choice, not mine) and I chose hot and sour soup, sautéed broccoli and shrimp and no rice.
  • My brother took me out to a steakhouse for dinner. I had a 6 oz filet with double veggies, no dessert.
  • My parents chose In N' Out for lunch one day. I chose a hamburger with grilled onions, protein style (wrapped in lettuce instead of a bun) and no fries.
  • Morning donuts have always been a HUGE part of staying at mom and dad's. I kindly refused each time they were brought home.
  • Being without a scale was a great thing for me. I still am anxious to see if the scale validates my hard work. I really wish I could break up with that dysfunctional relationship!
The point is...you do not have to offend or impose your diet on others. By being mindful and conscience I was able to enjoy my time with friends and family and still reach my goals. 

I was not perfect though. I succumbed to one temptation! The Cool Ranch Locos taco at Taco Bell. . . just one. (I counted it)

This trip home was a huge a-ha for me! If I could be focused there, I can be focused anywhere. You can too!


Friday, October 12, 2012

Check in ~ 10.12.12

Pic of the Week
My mandarin teacher and friend, Lily, treated me to a feast!
left to right: spicy noodles, rice "disks" with veggies, baozi with leek and mushroom, sweet and sour pork ribs, "chicken flavored" fish, jiaozi filled with soup. This is cantonese chinese food which is very different from Beijing style- much better in my opinion. 
Challenges of the Week: Getting back into the swing of things after a relaxing vacation is usually a challenge. I always want to spring right back into exercise and counting calories the second I land but I am learning that it often takes about a week to settle back in (and for my airline bloating to subside).  For me, the goal is not to panic.
This week had many opportunities for failure...treats at scripture study, lunches out. I'd like to say I was too busy to go to the gym, but I just simply chose not to on a few days. I simply stayed up way too late on many nights and was too tired in the morning.  NO MORE EXCUSES!
 I did about 50% good and 50% not so good...instead of looking at it as a failure, I see that this week was a step back to my 100% (which WILL be next week!)

Successes of the Week: Part of the 50% good included: I chose to split something at a lunch out. Stopped eating when I was full. On Wednesday I went to the gym and then walked for 2 hours and 40 minutes all around the city. 

Weigh In: down 1.4 lbs

Looking Ahead: This weekend will be the son's birthday party with pizza and brownies (he hates cake. . . my  child?). Have to come up with a plan because I hate pizza, but if I am hungry I will eat it. Must go to gym daily next week...

Hawaii countdown is on! I am using that trip as a road marker on my journey. I would really like to be 10 pounds down by then. 10 Weeks To Go...1 Pound a Week! Let's do this!

Thursday, March 4, 2010

The Challenge Is On!

Ever since my race, I have been not doing so well in the "low sugar" part of my commitment! I have been doing great in training for my half marathon, but let's face it, I still want to shed 20 more pounds and eating Girl Scout cookies, Dove chocolate and yummy cake is not the way to go!
So as my friend and I were in mile 4 of our first day of hill training I was moaning about not being motivated to eat right...a challenge was born! Here it is! I am accountable to you all now too!
No "dessert type item" from yesterday (3/2) until the evening of March 19th- this includes (but is not limited to)
  • cookies
  • cakes
  • chocolate
  • ice cream
  • Nutella
  • chocolate chips
  • hot chocolate

We may have one dessert for one night- one night only!

The consequence if either of us fail:

  • a picture of us IN OUR SWIMSUIT (taken by other person) to be posted on Facebook! ( I say blog too!)
  • buy the other person's dinner on March 19th

Bring it on!

Monday, September 28, 2009

~The Killjoy~

I love to socialize! I love talking, eating, laughing and being around my friends! I have a horrible confession to make! In the past, I have felt uncomfortable around friends who eat healthy! You see, I am Italian and food is as much of a part of socialization as the conversation itself! So I have always felt more at ease socializing with friends who can have the freedom to eat and enjoy food without counting calories or picking at half of a slice of cake while I devour the whole slice....and then have seconds!!

How unfair I have been! How judgemental I have been! Instead of valuing these friends for what they can bring to the table (not literally), my guilt would prohibit me from being inspired by these friends. To my healthful friends: I apologize!

Recently, I have become the killjoy! This weekend I went to a couple of social events with family and friends. While I sat eating veggies, salad and turning down a donut I felt others around me tense up, or make comments about themselves , as they notices the choices I was making.
Why do our food choices matter so much to those around us? It is the exact reason for this blog/book. No matter who we are FOOD guides the way we act and react!
**If you know a "killjoy"- compliment them! It may have been a hard choice to choose the celery stick over the potatoe chip**
**If you are a "killjoy"- be sensitive that others may feel guilty at your good choices and look to yourself for praise instead of others**
And while socializing, I will focus on the people NOT THE FOOD!

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

~Attention YOU!~

Writing this book is sooo fun. I hope you all think it is as funny as I do! I will give you a little teaser.... " I’d like you to meet my most loyal friend, Fanny Bottom." For those of you who do not know, my real last name is Bottom. Yeah I know! I knew I had to use it in the book somehow and put it this way, Fanny is a huge character in this book!
Who do you think "Fanny Bottom" is in this book?

I know there are plenty of outspoken, humorous, opinionated women out there! Please email me your thoughts about this subject that ALL women agonize over. Our bodies, food, exercise, etc...